Forgiveness Shows Strength of Character


Forgiveness Shows Strength of Character

Forgiveness Shows Strength of Character

If you can forgive, then your forgiveness shows strength of character. It takes courage, commitment and quite possibly a lot of self-reflection to forgive and not seek revenge for every wrong done against you. Forgiveness is a virtue.  Forgiveness deals with temperance, or control and self-restraint. Temperance (which is basically self-restraint) is a core virtue of strength of character (Institute of Public Administration Australia, n.d.).

When you forgive, you are not necessarily reconciling, forgetting or condoning the offense. Rather, forgiveness is a necessary strength that we use to protect ourselves from feelings which can destroy our physical and mental health, or at least fester away inside of us. It is most certainly not easy to forgive, particularly when you can clearly see injustice. That is one reason why forgiveness shows strength of character.

Forgiveness Shows Strength of Character

Some people claim that forgiveness is the ultimate gift to yourself. Whether justice is served with apologies, reparation or other positive actions, forgiveness can lift the burden of anger. It can heal a heavy heart. Forgiveness can also lift resentment. Your mind will not be filled with heavy and troubling thoughts. By not forgiving, you will spend more time in the prison of your non-forgiving attitude. It just eats away at us. Forgiveness is like letting a huge burden go, it can have remarkable healing effects.

When you forgive, you’re making a conscious effort to live a happier, more active and authentic life that strengthens your character even more because you have been able to work through a major problem.

Letting go of thoughts of revenge and anger certainly doesn’t take away the pain and hurt. It does, however help you to move it around into a category of the “past” and get on with your future. Being able to progress from the hurts of the past and into the realm of forgiveness is a huge character builder. This is because of all the steps you have to take. You are taking away the negative portions of your character and replacing them positively.

Forgiveness isn’t easy; it’s a process that could help to rebuild trust and get a relationship back on track. Of course, the relationship may never be restored and trust may never return, but even though things may never be the same with that person, forgiveness opens the way for you to restore your own positive outlook on life and move on to something even better.

Forgiveness Shows Strength of Character

With forgiveness, it is important to acknowledge the pain perpetrated against you. After you forgive, you’ll soon realise that you have no more thoughts of revenge. You may not even feel anger for the person who hurt you. Obviously, there is a major character flaw in his or her character that he needs to work through too.

Strength of character can flourish and grow when you choose forgiveness over anger and resentment. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13)



Institute of Public Administration Australia, (n.d.). Positive psychology: Realising meaningful change. Retrieved February 6, 2019, from

Bible Study Tools, (2018). Forgiveness Bible verses. Retrieved February 6, 2019, from

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Forgiveness Shows Strength of Character

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